Kuzvidzora, kuzvigutsikana, kunzwisisa, kutora zvisarudzo, kuzvimiririra, kutya - iwe haungafungi kuva nezvinhu izvozvi zvose zvinokurudzira, handizvo here? Kana iwe uchinge usiri kutarisa rurefu rwemapikisheni, iwe unogona kutaura zviri nyore - isu tose tinoda kuva hukama hwakasimba, uye zvisingaiti, tinoongorora vanhu vose vakakomba nokuva "nepfungwa" dzeunhu hwakasimba.
Chii chinogadzirisa unhu hwakasimba?
Nditendei, pasinei kuti kusanzwisisika kwacho kwakanzwika sei, chero munhu upi zvake ane hukama hwakasimba dzimwe nguva anonzwa asinganzwisisiki nenzira yekuzvidzora, kufara, kuvhiringidzika. Kungova neunhu hwakasimba hunoziva kuti haufaniri kuvaratidza mutsara wega wega, uye tiri kurasikirwa nemikana yakawanda yakanakisisa muhupenyu bedzi nokuda kwe "rurimi runogumbura", "makumbo echirume", "podkashivayuschihsya makumbo."
Ngationei kuti ndechipi chepfungwa inotungamirirwa neunhu hwakasimba.
Kuzviongorora
Iwe unozvikoshesa zvakadini iwe chiratidzo chinotarisa chekuti iwe uri kuzvivimba uye, maererano naizvozvo, iwe uri munhu akasimba.
Kuzviongorora ndiko kuongororwa kwemamwe mabasa anoshandiswa nomunhu (kuongorora kwechitarisiko, pfungwa, charisma). Zvose zve "kuzviongorora" kwakadaro chiratidzo chekutsika kana kuzvikudza.
Uyewo nokuda kwekuzviremekedza kwedu ndeyekufunga kwevamwe. Vanhu vanotaura kuti havana chavanoita nechomuvakidzani wavo anofunga pamusoro pavo vane matatu pasi pamusoro pekusava nehanya. Mukati, isu tose tiri kuedza kuziva zvavanofunga pamusoro pedu: tinodzidza zvinhu zvakanaka - tinowedzera kuzvikudza kwedu, tinodzidza zvakaipa, tichadzikisa.
Kazhinji kazhinji tinodzidza zvakaipa chete, nokuti vanhu vanofunga uye vanotaura nezvevamwe zvakaipa, kuzvikudza ivo pachako, saka, kuva munhu ane chivimbo chakasimba.
Saka, kuzvikudza kwepamusoro ndiko unhu hukuru hweunhu hwakasimba.
Kudzidzira
Nditende, hapana chakaoma mukukwiridza unhu hwakasimba - kwete. Ingofanirwa kudzidza kuti ungaita sei. Apo "tinoita", mukati medu tinoedza kubata
Saka, chii chinofanira kunge chiri unhu hwakasimba (iwe unofanirwa kuzvibata sei uye uve munhu akasimba):
- kutonga kubereka pose pose uye nguva dzose, kunyange moga pachako;
- musoro unomutswa;
- Chiso chine kunyemwerera, uye kana iwe uchida kufadza uye kutya-chiso chisingazungunuki, chisingadi;
- kwechipiri usati wasvinudza muromo wako, fungidzira nechinangwa chipi, simba, timbre iwe unoda kutaura shoko, ichadzivirira pane "kukanganisa";
- tarisa-haimhanyi, haisi kuwira, nokuti mashizha 3-4 inotarisa pane interlocutor, zvakanakisisa kutarisa muhuma, mhino, chinhu.