Kushandiswa inzira yekukurudzira munhu mumwechete kana boka revanhu kune chimwe chigumisiro. Sezvo mutemo, kuchinja uku kwemaonero, maitiro, kushanda kwezviito zvinoda kune avo vanobatwa.
Inyanzvi yekugadzirisa pfungwa dzevanhu ndiyo ruzivo rwakavanzika rwevasanangurwa. Zvizhinji zvezviratidzo zvakafanana nehondo kurwisana nevanhu vane rugare vasina kugadzirira uye havadi kutarisa. Sezvo hondo iri pakavanzika, kubudirira kunotsanangurwa nekudzivirira vanhu kuti varambe.
Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa, nyanzvi dzemabhizimisi masangano, vamiriri vezviitiko zvakasiyana-siyana, vezvematongerwe enyika, uye dzimwe nguva kunyange vanhuwo zvavo vanoshandisa nzira dzisingabvumirwi dzekutaura mukukurukura nevanhu kuti vaite zvinangwa zvavo. Munhu wacho kakawanda haazive kuti chii chinonzi kushandiswa. Gara uchikurumidza kune wakasindimara uye uite zvose zvinodiwa kwavari. Kunyange zvakadaro, rutivi rutsva rwemari ndeyekuti mumwe nomumwe wedu, pane imwe nzvimbo, a manipulator. Ichokwadi, vashoma chaizvo vanhu vanoziva izvi.
Nzira dzekushandisa vanhu
- Kushandiswa kwerudo.
- Kushandura manzwiro ekutadza.
- Kushandura kutsamwa.
- Kushandiswa kwekunyarara.
- Kushandiswa kwezvisina maturo.
- Sarcasm kana irony nezvimwe zvakadaro.
Nzira dzokubata nadzo vanhu:
- "Kana iwe uchida, saka ..." - mutsara uyu wakagadzirirwa munhu waunoda. Somuenzaniso, vakadzi vanowanzotungamirira varume . Kubvira pauduku, kutya kwekurasikirwa rudo uye kurambwa kwakasimba kwazvo. Vamwe vabereki vakaedza kushandisa mwana wavo, vachiti "Kana musingandinzwi, zvandinotaura, ndicharega kukudai";
- Chimwe chezvinhu zvinokuvadza zvakanyanya kune munhu wepedyo ndiko kushandiswa kwekunzwa mhosva. Dzimwe nguva, vanhu vari mubasa reakaroorwa vanorarama kwemakore uye vanozviona sechiitiko chechokwadi, asi vanhu vakavapoteredza havachafariri kuvabatsira, uye havagoni kunzwira tsitsi, uye kunyange kukanganisa hutsinye. Nokuti munhu anenge atambudzwa nguva dzose ari pamusoro pemhuri. Uyu munhu anokurudzira vamwe vose nekubatsirwa nemhosva. Mushure mechinguva, vanhu vanobatanidzwa mune izvi, vanotanga kunzwisisa uye kugadzirisa pane izvi kushungurudza zvakashata.
- Vanhu vanoshandisa izvo zvinodanwa kutsamwa kutsamwa vanoedza kukumanikidza kuti uzvipe kwavari;
- Munhu anotarisa kuti anyarare paanenge achida kuratidza munhu wese kuti zvinogumbura sei. Nokuti anotenda kuti iwe wakasarudza kuti dambudziko racho harina basa kwaari. Vanhu vanoramba vachinyarara nokuda kwechikonzero chero chipi zvacho vanosika mamiriro ezvinhu anogona kukanganisa ukama. Kunyarara, sekutonga, kunoratidzwa kuita kuti pfungwa yako ive nemhosva kuti iwe unzwisise kushungurudzika kwomunhu wacho;
- Dambudziko nekusimbisa kusakwanisa: "Zvichida, iwe haungakwanisi ...", kana, zvakasiyana, kurumbidza, wataura nekutarisira kwekuzadzisa chinangwa: "Iwe unotora zvinyorwa zvakakwana! Zvichida, uye iyo yandichapa, hapana anozoita zviri nani kupfuura iwe! ";
- Munhu (manipulator) anobva asarudza inzwi rinotyisa, mazwi uye mazwi anotsoropodza, anotsigirwa nemashoko anotsamwisa kana majee.
Iro psychology yekunyengedza kwevanhu inzvimbo inosanganisira nhamba yakawanda yenzira, maitiro nemaitiro. Pane imwe nguva, unyanzvi hwekushandisa vanhu hwakaimbwa naDale Carnegie. Asi kuti uzvidzivirire iwe pachako, hazvibviri kudzidza
- Edza kusiyanisa kubva pamashoko e-interlocutor chete izvo zvinopikisana zvavanobvumirana nazvo. Nokudaro, iwe uchasarudza chete iwe unofanirwa uye unodarika mamwe mashoko;
- Kana iwe usingadi hurukuro, shandura nyaya yacho. Somuenzaniso, taura kuti mangwana iwe uchafunga nezvazvo. Izvi zvichakupa mukana wekusapinda mukunyengera;
- Kana iwe wakatsamwirwa kupindura nekunyombwa kana kutsoropodza, rega kukanganwa manipulator. Iti iwe hausi kuda kutaura pamusoro peizvi uye wozosimbisa shamhu ye manipulator.
Uye dzimwe nguva zvinongova zvakakwana kuti titi kune "manipulator" yakasimba "kwete".
Uye saka, kune uyo anoshandiswa, unyanzvi uhwu hunokuvadza, asi manipulator inobatsira zvikuru. Saka iwe unofanira kudzidza kudzidzira nzira, uye zviri nani kukwanisa kuzvishandisa.