Kuvharwa uye kuomesera hazviwedzeri kuzvidzora mukukurukurirana nevanhu. Kuzokwanisa kutsigira chinangwa chekukurukurirana, kuva mutauriri anonakidza - kwete vakawanda vanogona kuzvikudza pamusoro peizvi. Kushamwaridzana semunhu wehutano kunokosha kukura iwe pachako. Izvi zvinogoneka, chinhu chikuru ndechokuisa chinangwa ichi.
Vanhu vakakamurwa kuva mhando mbiri: extroverts uye introverts. Rudzi rwekutanga rwakasununguka kuvanhu, kutaurirana. Introverts ndeavo vanotaurirwa ivo pachavo. Ivo vakavharwa kubva kunze kwenyika. Izvi zvinofanirwa kuverengwa uye kuwedzera kuzvidzora kumudzimai akadaro.
Kushushikana uye kufambidzana kune pfungwa mbiri dzakasiyana. Tinoreva tsanangudzo dzinotevera:
- kushamwaridzana ndeyekuti munhu anoda kuyanana nevamwe vanhu;
- Kukurukurirana ndiko kukwanisa kwevanhu kuti vadzike nyore uye kugadzirisa vatauri muboka chero ripi zvaro.
Nzira yekukudziridza ushamwari?
Zviri nyore kutora kutakurwa nokutaura nemunhu anogona kuita chimwe chinhu chaanotaura. Vanhu vanofarira, vakadzidza, vanhu vanodzidza havazombosiyi vasina hanya. Mukumwe kukurukurirana, munhu akadaro akagamuchirwa. Zvakakosha kwatiri kuti tinzwe maonero eumwe pamusoro peiyi kana mubvunzo iwoyo, kuti tiwane pfungwa yeumwe munhu. Nokudaro chiito chekutanga chekuvandudza kushamwaridzana:
- zvimwe kuverenga, kutarisa uye kuteerera kumapurogiramu ekugadzirwa, kuva "makaro" kune ruzivo rutsva.
- Vanhu vanokurukurirana havatyi kuzivana nevanhu vatsva. Kwavari, izvi zvinofadza zvikuru. Kuti uwedzere kufambidzana kwako, ita zvinotevera:
- pakarepo paunowana uri munzvimbo yakazara (supermarketete, paki yemafaro, cinema, mafirimu), usapotsa mukana wekuuya uye utaure nemumwe munhu usingazivi. Kana iwe uchinge uchitaura ne "kutonhora," iwe unowedzera ushingi uye une chivimbo iwe uchava mukutaurirana. Musoro unogona kuva wakanyanya kunyanya: mamiriro okunze, kusarudzwa kwemafirimu, pfungwa pashure pekuona kushanda, nezvimwe;
- zvimanikidze kuti "ufare" uye kuratidza kufarira kune imwe hurukuro. Iva netsika yekukurukurirana, usamira pamativi.
Kazhinji tinonyanya kuvhiringidzika, kana tambosangana paInternet nemumwe munhu anofadza mumaonero edu, mumusangano chaiwo, iye pakarepo anova laconic. Ichokwadi ndechokuti kukurukurirana kwepamusoro kunopiwa zvakanyanya nyore kupfuura kutaura kwechokwadi. Vanhu vakadaro havakwanisi kuonana. Vanotya vanhu, kana vasingatyi mukati mavo, vanozivikanwa, kana vose pamwe chete mu "rimwe bhodhoro". Yeuka kuti kungokurukurirana chete kunounza iwe zvaunoda kugadzirisa mukugadzirisa dambudziko rako.