Gore negore pamakashafu ezvitoro mabhuku unogona kuwana mabhuku akawanda ane tsanangudzo yakasiyana-siyana yekukurukurirana. Chinangwa chikuru chemaitiro acho ndechekudzidzisa muverengi kuti anzwe sehove mumvura, achitaurirana nevanhu vakasiyana, zvose muhutano uye unhu, uye mune zvehutano.
Tichaedza kuwana tsananguro mukubudirira kwevanhu - kubudirira, kuti zviri nyore sei kuchengetedza kukurukurirana nemutauri wega wega.
Ndingaita sei kuti ndirambe ndichikurukurirana?
Kana hurukuro iri kuuya inorongwa uye iwe unotambudzwa nemafungiro asina kujeka zvokuti iwe unogona kuita kuti urege kunyatsofunga kana kukangamwa zvaunenge uchida kutaura, iwe unofanirwa kuita zvidhori zvishoma pamusoro pezvaunoda kuudza mutauriri. Usakanganwa kuti hapana chikonzero chekutsoropodza munhu kana chimwe chinhu. Radiate tariro. Zviri nani kutaura pamusoro pezvaunoda. Asi usatorerwa nenyaya yego yako. Zvakanyanya kufadza kuti munhu mumwe nomumwe ataure pamusoro pake pachake, saka usakanganwa kubvunza mibvunzo yakasununguka kumutauriri wako. Ikozvino, bvunza izvi, iyo iyo interlocutor isingagoni kupindura nefupfupi "hongu" kana "kwete." Gadzira mubvunzo wako, kuitira kuti mutauriri wacho adikanwe kutaurira nyaya pfupi kubva muupenyu hwake kana kupindura nemashoko akawanda, nekuda kwaungagona kuunganidza mashoko achaita mibvunzo yako inotevera. Mukuwedzera kune zvose zviri pamusoro apa, uchida kuita zvinhu zvinokufadza, hupenyu hwomutauriri, unoita kuti zvive pachena kuti anofarira iwe semunhu, uye iwe hausi kurega zvose zvaanotaura nezvazvo.
Usakanganwa zvakare pamusoro pekudzunga musoro wako iwe uchiri kuteerera. Mushure mezvose, kuvharidzira hakuna chimwe chinhu kunze kwekusaziva kusabvumirana kwemaonero maererano nemanzwiro akanzwika, kunoratidza zvakajeka kuti pfungwa dzomutauriri wacho dzinokosha kwauri.
Iyo interlocutor ichava nehanya nenyaya dzako kana dzisingatauri zvakaoma, maererano neshoko rakasimba, nhamba, sekunge iwe uri kuudza vakuru pamusoro pehuwandu hwebasa rakaitwa. Isa manzwiro mumashoko ako.
Nzira yekutaura nemurume?
Ngatitangei pamusoro penyaya dzekutaura nemurume waunoda kusarudza. Vamiririri vehutano hwakasimba vanosarudza zvidzidzo zvinokonzera adrenaline. Vanosarudza hurukuro inoshanda, yezvinhu uye inokurudzira. Zvinogona kuva zvematongerwe enyika, bhora, mimhanzi, mafirimu, motokari.
Ichokwadi kuti havasi mukadzi wose anokwanisa kutsigira hurukuro pamusoro pe "vanowanzopa vatengesi vane twine screw screw feeder", saka zvakanakisisa uye zvinonakidza kumativi ose maviri zvichava hurukuro yekubudirira kwomurume munzvimbo dzakasiyana-siyana dzehupenyu hwake. Kana iwe uchangobva kusangana munguva pfupi uye usati wati kuziva kwawakasvika kusvika kumusoro, unogona kuedza kuwana ruzivo rwaunoda nekubatsirwa netsika yakambotaurwa kare yemibvunzo yakazaruka uye yakavharwa.
Kana mukadzi asingatore chinhu ichi, ngatitenderei kune zvatinotaura pamusoro pevarume.
Kana iwe uchida kubudirira pakukurukura nevakomana vakasiyana, ipapo mukana wekuwirirana mutauriri mukukurukurirana huchawedzera, kana kuwedzera kune zvidzidzo zvevakadzi, iwe uchange uchiri kutungamirirwa munyaya idzodzo varume vanogona kutaurirana kwemaawa. Kakawanda kakawanda pavhiki, farira nhau mune zvematongerwo enyika, tarisa pawebsite yemafirimu mafirimu. Asi, apo iwe unogona kusarudza nyaya dzakakodzera dzekukurukura, usakanganwa kuti uri kutarisana nevarume, uye havazokunzwisisi kubva pahafu-shoko.
Ngationeiwo nzira dzekubatsira kupindura mubvunzo wekukurukurirana nevarume, kuitira kuti mushure memugumo wekukurukurirana, iwe uye wako wekutaurirana unogutsikana.
- Saka, paunenge uchitaura nevarume, iwe unofanirwa kudzivisa kujekesa kwenguva refu, uye usatsvake kufambisa chiitiko chinorondedzerwa nemamwe epithets kana mifananidzo.
- Kukurukurirana nemurume kunofanira kunge kwakanyatsojeka uye kusagadzikana. Mune mhaka musati musanganisa hurukuro yenyu nedzimwe nhau mutariro iyo mumwe wako achave nyore kukwanisa kukosha kwezvakataurwa. Panguva ino, uropi hwomunhu hunotanga kuedza kuwana hukama hwakanaka pakati pezvinyorwa zviviri. Edza kunamatira pane zvakaenzana mumashoko ako.
- Edza kudzivisa hafu-mazano. Usashandisa mazwi akadai sekuti "Hauna iwe ...". Mukupindura kumunhu wokupedzisira anogona kugona mupfungwa kuti anokwanisa kuzadzisa chikumbiro chako. Iye, muzviitiko zvisingawanzoitiki, achanzwisisa kuti ichi ndicho chikumbiro. Uyu ndiwo mutsara wako, achabva achifunga sechido chako pane zvaanogona kuita
izvo zvawakataura - Kana paunenge uchikurukura nemurume, anokushingaira iwe, achitaura pfungwa yave ichangobva kuonekwa, haazokugumbura zvachose kana iwe ukashandisa maitiro akafanana.
Kuti panguva yekukurukurirana iwe haugone kutaura nevarume, ndezvekurasikirwa, kurasikirwa nehupenyu hwako, usagovana zvakavanzika pamusoro pematambudziko ako. Haafaniri kuziva nezvezvinhu zvausingafariri nezvechitarisiko chako, pamusoro pepaundi yako yakawedzerwa uye pamusoro penguvo yaamai vako kwauri. Ita mukufungidzira kwevarume yako mufananidzo wakabudirira.