Kuburikidza nemakumi makumi emakore pamberi pedu, zvinyorwa zvevanganyanya kufunga nezvehupenzi zvinosvika. Uye, pasinei nekuchinja kwatakaita nyika yedu, mazwi evanhu vekare vazivi vanogara vachikosha. Semuenzaniso, nhaurirano yehupenzi kubva pamusangano wemufungidziri mukuru Aristotle, uyo aidavira kuti egoism haisi muzvido-rudo, asi mukukuru kupfuura iyo inofanirwa, chiyero cherudo urwu. Dzidziso ye egoism ine zvakawanda zvinopesana. Vamwe vanhu vanofunga kuti udyire kuva unhu hwakanaka, unhu hunodiwa hwekuwana mufaro, vamwe vanofunga kuti udyire hunoisa hupombwe hwemukati chete. Kupesana uku kunogona kunyatsooneka mumashoko ekudzokorora uye aphorisms pamusoro peevhangeri. Epictetus akanyora kuti kuita zvinhu zvose pachako hazvirevi kuita zvinopesana nezvakanaka. Thackeray, kune rumwe rutivi, akatenda kuti kunze kwezvakaipa zvose zvinonyadzisa munhu, udyire ndihwo hwakashata uye hunonyadzisa. Kupesana kweiyo pfungwa ye egoism yakasimbiswa mune iyo aphorism ya Ambrose Bierce: "Egoist munhu ane ruvara rwakashata, anozvifarira zvikuru kupfuura ini." Uye heino nharo pamusoro pehudyire hweJermolova, umo mutsetse pakati pemagariro egoism uye zvinoparadza rudo-rudo zvinoonekwa: "Munhu wose anoita zvose nokuda kwavo pachavo. Mumwe chete pavari pachake kune vamwe uye zvimwewo haadi, uye vamwe pachavo pamutengo wevamwe uye zvimwe zvakasakwanisa. "
"Utano" uye "kurwara" udyire
Aphorismasi inongoratidzikisa chinangwa chekuzvipira, vanosimbisawo nhamba huru yezvinoreva zvatinoshandisa muchikonzero chedyire. Mubvunzo uyu unobata basa guru muupenyu hwedu hwose. Kuisa pfungwa dzehupenzi uye kuzvipira, iwe unogona kuparadza unhu kana kuti kukonzera kushingaira kunopesana nekudzvinyirirwa kwe "I" wake, uye kugona zvachose chikonzero chinopesana. Kubva paucheche tinodzidziswa kuti udyire chinhu chakaipa, uye hupenyu hwevanhu hune nzvimbo yakadai sekutya kuonekwa zvakaipa pamberi pevamwe. Nokudaro, chigadziro chekunyengedza chagadzirira. Chero munhu anoita zvaanoda kubva kwaari, kana kuti anonzi ari egoist. Mwana wacho nokukurumidza anonzwisisa maitiro ezvinyorwa zvakadaro, uye zvichienderana neunhu hwake hunoita kuti ave manipulator kana munhu akabatwa. Achikura, anoramba achizvibata maererano nemuenzaniso wemafambiro akavandudzwa achiri muduku. Kubva pamaonero akaiswa pasi anovaka ukama mumhuri, inodzidzisa vana zvakanaka. Asi chii pakupedzisira? Kana mwana akazova manipulator, zvino ihwo mubvunzo wekuparadza hutsika. Anozadzisa zvinangwa zvake kuburikidza nekushandisa vamwe, asi asingatarisiri zvachose pamusoro pemafungiro avo kune zvaanoita. Vanhu vakadaro havana mamiro ekudyire, havafari nemanzwiro evanodiwa, uye sechikonzero vanogara vari voga kana vakakombwa nevanhu vanovenga. Kana mwana wacho achitora chikamu chemunhu akaurayiwa, saka kazhinji anowanzova anhu, asi kwete nekuda kwerudo kune vavakidzani vake, asi nekuda kwekutya kukonzera kusagutsikana. Vanhu vakadaro vanopinda mumaketani evanhu vanokonzera, uye vanopedza hupenyu hwavo mukurwisana nguva dzose pakati pemanzwiro ekutadza avo vanokura nyore, uye vanoedza kurega kudzivisa unhu hwavo. Vanhu vakadaro vanogona kuzviisa pasi pamaoko evanhu, asi kupinda munharaunda umo pasina munhu ari kuedza kuzvidzora, vanozviisa pasi vachiedza kuzvidzivirira, kutsamwa nekutsinye.
Saka pane chinhu chakadai sehupenyu hwakanaka hwemunhu. Kuzvipira kwakadaro kunoreva kuda iwe pachako uye kuzvifungira iwe pachako, asi kunzwisisa nekuremekedza vamwe. Egoist yakadaro haichazoiti chero chinhu chipi zvacho chokufadza mufaridzi, asi kana vakaona zvichikosha, ivo vanobatsira nomwoyo wose pasina kumirira kugamuchirwa uye pasina kutya kune mhosva. Utano hwakanaka hunofambidzana hunoenderana nekuzvikudza, asi hahuna hutano muchibayiro, izvo zvinounza kuparadzwa kwemukati. Kuzvikudza kwe "akakanganisa" ndiko kuunza kusagadzikana uye kutambura nekuda kwevamwe. Kuwedzera kwehupenyu hwakanaka hunoreva mabasa anofadza kune iwe uye kune vamwe. Mune hutano hwakanaka unogona kuva mutongi uye akaurayiwa, asi kana bedzi kana vakaona kusaderera kwemuenzaniso wekare wekuita. Uyezve, kuratidzwa kwehupenyu hwevarume nevakadzi kune zvakasiyana, uye nenzira iyo, nzira dzokurwisana nadzo udyire dzichasiyana. Kunzwisisa,
Usabvisa zvachose udyire. Utano hwakanaka hunodiwa kuti munhu ave noupenyu huzere uye kuzadziswa kwezvinangwa zvake. Kudzivirira chisarudzo chako uye maonero ako, asi panguva imwe chete kuti uremekedze uye uone maonero uye kusarudzwa kwevamwe vanhu chinhu chakasiyana chekunzwisisa egoism.