Mhinduro dzakanaka dzemubvunzo uyu dzinogona kuwanikwa zvakawanda. Somuenzaniso, wadii kutaura kuti varume havadi kuroorwa, nokuti vanotya kurasikirwa norusununguko rwavo rwekare? Kana kuti urege kuwedzera kuti varume havadi kuroorwa, nokuti havadi kusungwa nemumwe chete wepabonde? Pakupedzisira, sei usina kubvuma kuti varume havadi kuroorwa nokuti vatova nemhuri isingabudiriri?
Zvisinei, ini ndoga ndinopesana neizvi. Nguva dzose paive nemhuri isingabudiriri, nguva dzose murume uyu aifungidzirwa secheka rimwe nerimwe, uye nguva dzose aida kuva neusununguko. Kunyange zvakadaro, akaroora, akava nevana, uye akatora mutoro wemhuri yake. Zvidzidzo zvinotaura kuti varume vave vachidzivisa kushamwaridzana kwemhuri mumakore makumi mana apfuura - vachivasarudza kuva nyore kusarudza kubatana chete.
Kusarura mhinduro dziri pamusoro apa mubvunzo wekuti nei varume vasingadi kuroora, ini ndichapa ini pachangu, kutanga kubva pashoko rokuti "cohabitation". Kana, sezvinosvikika zvino kuti uite, - "kuroorana kwevanhu". Ini neimwe nzira ndinogona kunzwisisa kuti panguva yeN NEP, yevashandi vezvematongerwo enyika vanoita zvekubatana mumakerchief akasungirirwa akasungirirwa shure, kuroorana kwevanhu vemuhurumende kwaiva kuparadzwa kwakafuridzirwa kwezvivako zvebourgeois. Imwe nyika, imwe nguva. Asi nditsanangurire kuti nei kubatana uku kuchidiwa nevasikana vemazuva ano.
Ndinonzwisisa kana murume akakodzera ari kupoteredza nguva. Asi kuti utambure maawa makumi maviri nemasere kuputika kwemunhu asingabvumirwi iyo chero ipi zvayo inogona kupera, uye ndiani waunofanira kushamba uye kuisa mashizha-shati panguva imwe chete?
Ay! Vasikana vakanaka, vakadzi vanodikanwa, shamwari dzomukomana! Usasvike nyore nyore - kuitira kuti usazonyengedza ubongo hwako usiku nekuda kwekuti sei asingadi kukuroora iwe. Mumwe murume haana kumbobvira achikoshesa zvaive nyore kwaari kuti aite.
Iwe haugoni kufungidzira kuti vangani varume vezera rakasiyana vakareurura kwandiri kuti vakasarudza madzimai avo nekuti havana kugara navo pausiku hwekutanga hwekuzivana kwavo. Unofunga kuti izvi zvinoshamisa here? Uye nei? Nhasi, varume havadi kuroora vakadzi vakachena sezvavasingadi kuzviita mazana emakore akapfuura, nokuti hupenyu hwevanhu hahuchinje!
Chimbofungidzira kuti mumwe munhu zvino anondinyorera sei uye hafu-anonyadzisa shamwari achiti: "Uye kubva papi pachifu chetenfetheni iyi moth yakabhururuka?" Zvakanaka, hapana chichawira pamapapiro angu, saka ndicharamba ndichidaro.
Kana munhu asingadi kuroorwa
Ichocho mubvunzo here? Mune pfungwa yekuita chii kana murume asingadi kukuroora iwe, kunyange iwe wakanga uri pamwe kwemakore mazhinji? Unganidza maoko ake uye umutumire kunzira kubva kwaakaratidzika pane iwe. (Usakanganwa kumupa bhoti rezino uye kuveura misoro kuitira kuti asine chikonzero chekutambudza zvakare). Kana-kuisa zvinhu zvako muchitokisi chako chaunoda, kanda makosi ako ekiyi kubva paimba yake kubva mubhandi, pinda uzviudze iwe pachako: "Ndiri mukadzi akasununguka!"
Kana iwe uchifungidzira kuti murume uyu haadi uye haasi kuzoroorwa, sei wakasvibisa upenyu hwako paari? Murume anokwanisa kuva nevana mumakore makumi matanhatu nema80. Nguva yezvakaberekwa yemukadzi inoshamisa zvikuru. Asi kunyange dai iwe usingadi kuva nevana (izvo zvandinopokana nazvo), sei wakakanda matambudziko iwayo, avo vanoziva, vanoziva misangano itsva uye mikana yekuroorwa, kuti iwe unogona kunge uine wakasununguka? Iwe waida kuva nomurume anewe, kwete wekugara naye kana wekuda, zvisinei iwe haungabvunzi kuti nei asingadi kukuroora iwe. Handizvo here?
Asi ndapota musandiudza kuti makamuda. Rudo runotora kuenzana kwemweya uye manzwiro, kana zvisina kudaro iyo isina kukwana kuvimba.
Sei asingadi kuroora?
Sei? Kana iwe uri kugara, haadi kukuroora iwe nekuda kwechikonzero chakanaka kuti haaoni pfungwa. Chii chichachinja - kunze kwekuti imwe imwe tumboti ichawedzerwa mupasipoti? Varume havawanzoroora vakadzi vatinogara navo sevashamwari pamwe nemakore akawanda. Nokudaro munyaya iyi, kushamisika sekuti sei iye, mutungamiri, asina kukuroora iwe neimwe nzira, haafaniri kunge ari.
Ndinoziva kupfuura muenzaniso mumwe chete, apo musikana muduku pachake akazviisa mumusungo wekugara pamwe nevezera rake, uyewo nguva nenguva anoshamisika kuti sei mukomana asingadi kumuroora. Mumakore 10-15, mukomana uyu wechidiki akachinja akava murume wechidiki akaziva uye akatanga mhuri nemumwe akasarudzwa. Uye yekare-musikana - kwenguva yakareba haasisiri musikana muduku - kamwe kamwe akaziva kuti mukadzi ane makore makumi matatu nemashanu ekuroora kuroorwa zvakanyanya kudarika makore makumi maviri nemashanu.
Kana iwe usingagare pamwe chete, asi unongosangana kwemakore mazhinji - zvino rega ndikubvunze mubvunzo unotevera. Zvakamboitika kwauri here kuti kana murume asingadi kuroorwa nemudzimai, izvi zvinongoreva here kuti haaiti semukadzi uyu?
... Ini handisanzwisisi ani uye nei ndakasarudza kuti varume havadi kuroorana. Zvechokwadi, ivo vanowira murudo, zvechokwadi, vanoroora, zvirokwazvo, vane vana. Uye pakati pevazikani vangu vatove vakaroorana vakaroorana, umo varume vanonamatira madzimai avo. Chii chakavanzika? Varume vanoda vakadzi ivavo vanozvida ivo pachavo. Uye ndiani, maererano neshoko rokuti: "Ngatigare pamwe chete!" Shandisai mafudzi avo uye mhinduro: "Sei? Kana tikaroora, ipapo tichagara pamwe chete. "