Apo muupenyu hwedu kune chiitiko chakakosha, tinotsvaka kubvumirwa kana kutsigirwa kubva kuvanhu vari pedyo nesu. Uye aya haasi nguva dzose shamwari, sezvo chikamu che "vanhu vepedyo" chinosanganisira shamwari. Uye hatinzwisisi kuti tingararama sei kana pasina shamwari. Asi, zvinosuruvarisa, zvinoitika. Asi nei zvichiitika kuti munhu haana shamwari, isu zvino tinoedza kunzwisisa.
Sei ndisingave neshamwari zvachose?
- Mhinduro kumubvunzo wekuti nei ndisina shamwari, psychology inokurudzira kutarisa mukati mangu, uye kwete mune vamwe. Kunyange zvakadaro, zvichava zvine musoro, nokuti iwe unonyora pane maforamu: "Rubatsiro, handina zvachose shamwari dzandingaita?", Vanhu vakavapoteredza havakwanisi kumira kuitira kuti muve shamwari. Ungati here mamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana? Hongu, ndezvechokwadi, kusava neshamwari kunogona kuwirirana, zvose pamwe nechitarisiko chomunhu, uye nechivimbo chake chisingadikanwi. Iye zvino tichakurukura zvikonzero zvinokanganisa zvikuru.
- Iwe unoti zvino iwe hauna shamwari, asi ivo vakambove varipo here? Kana paivapo, chii chakakonzera kuparara kwavo: kufamba, kuchinja mabasa (nzvimbo dzekudzidza), kuroora, kuva nemwana? Kana zvakadaro, saka iwe haufaniri kunetseka, zvinhu zvose zviri mukugadzirisa, kushandura zvinodiwa mukati mehupenyu huripo. Uye kana iwe usingafariri shamwari dzechivanze (zvechokwadi, dai pakange pasina shamwari dzepedyo pakati pavo), zvinoreva kuti iwe wakangotamira kune rimwe danho muupenyu hwako. Usanetseka, taurirana nevaya vanofarira iwe ikozvino, uye shamwari dzinofanira kuonekwa. Kana pane kuputsa neshamwari yepedyo, iwe unofaniri kuzvibvunza mubvunzo mumwe chete: "Ko iye akanga ari pedyo zvakadaro here?" Kana zvakadaro, uye kukakavadzana kwakaitika nekuda kwerumwe rudzi rwekupopotedzana kwepenzi, zvino chii chinokudzivisa kubva patsva patsva hukama? Mushure mezvose, tinokanganwira shamwari dzedu dzepedyo zvakawanda, uye zvichida mukupisa kwemanzwiro iwe usina kutarisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Zvakanaka, kana chimwe chinhu chikaitika chisina kukanganwirwa kune ani zvake uye haambofi, zvino chii icho shamwari iyo yakazvibvumira kuita saizvozvo?
- Zuva rimwe nerimwe unozvibvunza mubvunzo uyu: "Sei ndisina shamwari uye kwete shamwari", uye hauna kuwana mhinduro? Zvakanaka, ngatifunge pamwechete. Zvimwe iwe hauzivi kuti ungava sei shamwari uye usingadi. Ndiudze, iwe unofarira kuzviona uri muchionioni here? Kana zvakanaka, zvatove zvakanaka. Uye zvakadini nemafungiro ehurukuro? Unogona here kuramba uchizvidza kune vavasingazivi, funga nezvehuwandu hwekuvandudza huve hwakaderera pane wako uye usanonoka kuratidza? Iwe unofunga kuti vanhu vose vari munyika vanokukwereta chimwe chinhu, asi iwe haundi kupa chero chinhu chakadzoka? Zvimwe chete, haudi vanhu vose pasina, asi vanoda kuti vave shamwari newe? Hazvigoneki kuti maitiro akadaro anogona kungogadziriswa nevasingafadzi-kana vatsva (kana iwe uri munhu akakurumbira chaizvo), asi kwete shamwari. Haudi kuchinja? Ipapo udzidzise pfungwa yekuwana shamwari uye kushandiswa kune vanozvikudza, nekuti kunyange munhu ane mwoyo murefu uye ane rudo haagoni kumira maitiro akadaro kwaari pachake nguva dzose.
- Iwe uri kutsvaga mhinduro kumubvunzo: "Sei ndisingava neshamwari dzepedyo, kunyange vanhu vachida kutaura neni"? Kusavapo kweshamwari, kusanganisira pedyo, kunogona kunge kwakagadzirwa nemunhu.
Kune vanhu vakadaro, ivo vanonziwo introverts, avo vasingadi kugara vachikurukurirana; kazhinji vanoshaya nyika yavo yomukati. Usangopesana ne narcissism. Chirevo chinogona kuva chakanakidza mukukurukurirana nemunhu, asi iye, semunhu ane hanya, anotya kuregedza vamwe vanhu pedyo naye. Nemhaka yokuti zvinotyisa kuisa pfungwa dzako pane zvakavanzika nemafungiro kune mumwe munhu, kupi kune chivimbo chokuti haazoiti dutu kubva mutemberi yemweya? Kana iyi ndiyo mhaka yenyu, ipapo chinhu chimwe chete chaunogona kurayira ndechekudzidza kuvimba nevanhu zvishoma. Mushure mezvose, ruzhinji rwevanhu rwakapoteredza vanhu vakanaka uye vane hanya, asi iwe hauna kuzviona, nokuti dzakachengetwa muhomwe yavo.