Kutumira mwana kuchikoro, vabereki vanotarisira kwechinguva kwekanguva kuti vabvise mutoro wavo. Zvinonyanya kuitika, shandura mutoro uyu kumapfudzi evadzidzisi. Regai vadzidzise, vadzidzise, varange, vanokurudzira ...
Zvisinei, sezvarinosvika, nzira iyi inogona kukurumidza kukurudzira zvinokonzera njodzi. Kazhinji, pakuti mwana haadi kuverenga, ndivo vabereki vake ndivo vane mhosva yekudzidza.
Sei vana vasingadi kudzidza?
Kana mwana wacho asina kufarira kudzidza, nyatsoongorora chimwe chezvinhu zvinogona kuita basa.
- Zvidzidzo hazvitsvaki mwana, sezvo zvose zvaanoda zviri kunze kwemasvingo echikoro. Mitambo yekombiyuta, mitambo, mimhanzi - kazhinji mudzidzisi wevana haana hanya nezvinhu izvi zvinokuvaraidza, asi asina hanya nezvinodiwa nemwana, haagoni uye anomubatsira nehurukuro yavo.
- Kuchikoro, mwana haafambidzani nevezera rake, nokuti zvose zvaanobatanidza nekuita kwavo nguva, zvinokonzera kukurudzira kwevechiri kuyaruka uye kusada kutaurirana.
- Kune hukama hwakaipa nevadzidzisi. Izvi hazvisizvo chete ne "mapatya". Vadzidzisi vasina hanya vasina kubudirira kubudirira muupenyu hwavo vanogona kutorazve vana vevabereki vanobudirira, avo vanowanzoziva kupfuura mudzidzisi pachake. Muchiitiko ichi, kuti awane mhinduro yakanaka kana kurongeka, mudzidzisi haagoni kuisa bhora rakakodzera, uye mwana - kutambura. Mushure mezvose, vana vane pfungwa yakasimba ye "kururamisira," uye kurumbidzwa kusina kufanirwa, sekukurudzirwa kusina kufanira, vanowedzera zvakanyanya kupfuura munhu mukuru.
- Vabereki kana vadzidzisi havatsigire zvakakwana kufarira kwomwana, kuratidza kuti "zvose muhupenyu" munhu haabhadharwi chikoro kuchikoro uye kwete kunaka kwekushanda, asi ruzivo, kukwanisa kugadzirisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
- Kana, zvakasiyana, mwana anoziva kuti vabereki vacharamba vachimufungidzira, saka vachasarudza vadzidzisi vakanakisisa, ivo vachatsigira chido chokudzidza mune chero denderedzwa, nokuti chero rudzi rwebasa rusingamufadzi. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, mwana anozviona se "nzvimbo" yemhuri, asi nebasa rakapiwa kwaari harigoni kurarama. Zvakananga nokuti kudzivirirwa kwepfungwa, mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, "kunobvisa" kusabvumirana kwekuzadzisa zvidzidzo zvepurasari, kunyange kana zvinyorwa zvehurukuro zvichifadza mwana.
Nzira ipi yekufarira wechidiki kuchikoro?
Sezvo vaziva chikonzero chekusava nechido chokudzidza, vabereki vanogona kukurudzira mwana wavo uye kumudzorera kufarira kudzidza.
Tingaita sei kuti tiwedzere kufarira kudzidza uye kukudziridza kufarira mairi?
- Muchiitiko chekuti "kushungurudzwa" kusingatauri kunoziviswa pamusoro pomwana wako, zvose zvevadzidzi uye nechevadzidzisi, nzira yakanakisisa yekudzorera mwana murugare ichava iyo yekugadzirira kushamwaridzana ne "muvengi" kana kusarudza kuendesa kune imwe nzvimbo yechikoro. Iwe unogona kugadzira ushamwari munzira dzakawanda. Kana zviri maererano nevechiri kuyaruka, zvichave zvakakosha kuva nebasa rekuwedzera-chechikoro iro iwe, sevabereki vemucheche, iwe unotora chikamu uye, somuenzaniso, uunze vana vechikoro kumitambo, kumusamuziyamu kana kuenda kune rimwe guta. Panguva yechiitiko ichocho zvakakosha kusimbisa kusangana kwepfungwa ne "muvengi", kuratidza kuti iwe unogona kuva nezvinodiwa, kana kuti iwe, semunhu, wakanaka. Kana zviri zvekuvengana pakati pevakomana, unogona kuronga mhuri yemutambo wemutambo, enda pamwe chete pakabuda kunze kweguta. Muchiitiko chehukama hwakakosha mumudzidzisi, edza kutamba "mberi kwevheji." Usaita zvemhosva kumudzidzisi, usati iwe unonyunyuta kune vakuru vako. Pane zvakasiyana, kana, semuenzaniso, mudzidzisi ari mishonga yemakemikari, swedera kwaari mushure mekirasi uye tsanangura kuti unoda kuti mwana wacho adzidze makemikari yunivhesiti, uye naizvozvo chirango ichi chakakosha kwaari. Bvunza kamwechete pavhiki kuti uite zvidzidzo zvega. Kazhinji kacho kuvengana kwekutanga kunowedzera kuva ushamwari hukuru, uye mukana uyu unofanira kutorwa.
- Usa "shingaira" pamwana, uchimuita kuti anzwe zvakanyanya, usapomera mhosva yekufambira mberi kwakashata uye chero ipi zvayo usashandise "kutaura kwakasimba". "Tamba" neanofarira. Somuenzaniso, taura kuti gore rino iwe hauna nzira yekubhadhara vadzidzisi kwaari mumutauro wokumwe. Zvichida, munyaya iyi, iye pachake
mwana wacho achaswedera pedyo newe nemubvunzo uyu: "Zvichida uchakwanisa kundibhadharira Chirungu, nokuti mugore rimwe ndichakanganwa zvose zvandakadzidza." Usa "dhonza" mwana kuti atenge mabhuku aasingadi kutarisa, zviri nani kumudzidzisa nemunhu uyo mabhuku ari chikamu chehupenyu hwake uye izvo zvichaita kuti mwana ave nemanzwiro akasimba. Mune maziso emasimba, mwana haadi kuratidzika se "asingazivi," uye kufarira mumabhuku kuchazviratidza. - Cherechedza zvakare kuti mune imwe nzvimbo yekudzidzisa iyo mwana wako anoenda, vadzidzisi chaivo vakashanda, vachiratidza kufarira kwechokwadi munyaya yavo. Chero munyaya iyi, zvidzidzo hazvizovi nzvimbo yakakura uye chimiro, zvichida, munyaya iyi, mwana haafaniri kufarira kuwedzera. Bato rakanaka revadzidzisi nevadzidzi, vane hanya panyaya yacho, vachakuitirai zvose.