Pane pfungwa yokuti munhu akadhakwa anodana musikana uyo ane hanya uye asina hanya nezvake, saka vazhinji veavo vanodhakwa pamakumbo vanodzvinyirirwa nekutumidzwa "pasi petsoka," vanoda kuziva chii chinoita kuti vazviite uye kuti vanochibata sei. Kana munhu akadana akadhakwa, zvino zvinorevei maererano nemagariro epfungwa - munyaya ino.
Sei munhu achishevedza kana achinwa?
Kana munhu akangwara asina chido chakadaro uye kazhinji, mukadzi haaiti kumuona uye haasangana naye mumamiriro ezvinhu anowanzogara, asi anongonzwa izwi pa "mabhenji akadhakwa", zvino iyi ndiyo nguva yekufungisisa. Zvingangodaro, murume haazvikoshese uye haamuremekedze, kana achikwanisa kumuka nehusiku hunoshevedza uye kuzviita iye anoteerera. Doro rinoita kuti munhu asununguke uye ashingaire, anobvisa mabheki ose uye kakawanda zuva rinotevera murume anonzwa asinganzwisisiki uye achishungurudza pamusoro pezvaakaita. Vaya vari kushamisika kuti nei munhu achinzi chidhakwa chete, unogona kupindura kuti zvikonzero izvi zvinogona kunge zvakasiyana: anonzwa akasurukirwa, anoda kutaura uye anotarisira kuti pamagumo ehubhu achazonzwira tsitsi uye kuteerera.
Dzimwe nguva anoda kuwana chimwe chinhu, asi chero zvakadaro iye ane chokwadi chokuti vachazogamuchira mutori pakupedzisira, nokuti vanodawo kutaura pamusoro peshoko rakaoma, kuisa kuguma kuhukama kana kuti kwenguva refu vakamirira mumwe wavo kutsanangura murudo. Hungu, pasi pekudhakwa kwedoro, murume akagadzirira kuchema kurudyi rwake uye kuruboshwe pamusoro pemanzwiro ake, asi kana kumutenda, kusarudza chete kumukadzi. Kana izvi zvikava chimwe chezvikonzero zvakakosha, iwe unogona kuzvidemba chete, nokuti mudikanwi wekudyidzana naye kwete kungoidza kudhakwa, asiwo kunouya kusinganzwisisi, uyewo unoita muupenyu hwezuva nezuva zvese zvinofanirwa kuitwa kune unodikanwa-ane hanya, ane hanya, Anopedza nguva neaanoda uye zvirongwa zvemangwana. Kana munhu akadana akadhakwa, achishungurudza nekutaura pamusoro pechinhu chero chipi zvacho uye anonyangarika kune rimwe rinotevera rekunwa, zvino tinokwanisa kuponesa upenyu hwake nekuchengeteka uye tisina chinhu chekutarisira.